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A Blessing for the New Year

One year ending and a new one being born,
and all through the land there is a smoldering cloak of fear.


In this year may we open to new possibility
we don’t have to be ruled by our fears—inner or outer.
There is another way and
it doesn’t mean we can’t feel afraid.
 
We can learn to sit with our fears, holding them with compassion,
feeling them in our body.  Rather than be afraid of our fears or believe our fears are “the truth” we can get bigger than them.
We transform ourselves.
 
We return to our center,
our breath slows and deepens,
we calm down
we make wise choices.

May 2016 be a year when we transform our fear
Transform ourselves and our organizations
May we live in Freedom and Peace and all that they bring . . .

"As human beings, our greatness lies  . . . in being able to remake ourselves."
                                                                                               ~Mohandas K. Gandhi


 

 

The Evolution of Humanity

Last Friday evening I was at a dinner party and something a guest said pierced my heart deeply:  what our world needs is the "Evolution of Humanity."  

 In these three beautiful words I heard the music of a dream that I have be longing for since childhood. I often talk about taking the journey from fear to freedom and helping others do the same. The evolution of humanity is this, but seven levels deeper.  

 Many of us, from all walks of life, and nature herself, so say the senior scientists, are ready for a quantum leap in evolution. 

 The dinner guest was thinking of his children and grandchildren and the world we have created and are leaving for them.  There are other reasons.  Some of us are “beyond success,” according to the American dream.  We have it all-the money, the materialistic goods, yet long for something beyond these limits of success. Some of us are still caught up in chasing the American Dream, yet we feel that something is missing. Perhaps we knowingly or unknowingly wish to learn how to live a life of peace, self-love, and compassion. We want to heal our judging selves that destroy, instead of build. We long to speak our truths and have conversations that are true dialogues. We see the problems that our people and our earth are facing. We want to end war and live in inner and outer peace. Some of us are fortunate to feel passionate about doing work that we love, knowing that if we follow that stream, we will be giving our best to the world.

 The Evolution of Humanity will not come if we only feel depressed, outraged and pessimistic and if we do not hold the vision for an evolved humanity. It will not come if we keep exhausting ourselves from an overloaded “To-Do list.” 

 We are the seeds for a new earth. We can choose to work to evolve. There are many levels at which we can do the work. My focus has always been from the Inside-Out.  

 The Evolution of Humanity has been spoken of by many teachers. Here are some examples, recommended for further exploration:

  • Ekhard Tolle's A New Earth

  • Teilhard de Chardin’s The Divine Milieu

  • David Spangler’s Revelation; The Birth of a New Age

  • Michael Singer’s The Untethered Soul

  • Michael Brown’s The Presence Process

  • Marilyn Ferguson’s The Aquarian Conspiracy

 

Krishamurti spoke of it this way:  

“And as we are — the world is. That is, if we are greedy, envious, competitive, our society will be competitive, envious, greedy, which brings misery and war. The State is what we are. To bring about order and peace, we must begin with ourselves and not with society, not with the State, for the world is ourselves … If we would bring about a sane and happy society we must begin with ourselves and not with another, not outside of ourselves, but with ourselves.”

 

 

What can we do to evolve ourselves?  What can we do to bring out the best in ourselves? We can make a conscious choice to Do Less and Be More.  It can be helpful to focus on one transformative goal that speaks to you.  Here are some ideas:

  • Become Breathe Aware and develop a breathing practice

  • Connect with silence

  • Be Aware of our bodies

  • Be Conscious of self-talk and feelings

  • Connect with the earth

  • Share in our communities

  • Read for our souls

  • Develop mindfulness

Starting small is a great way to ensure success.

These practices can help us go forward into the light of day from a more centered place. The more each of us commit to the Evolution of Humanity, by working on ourselves from the Inside-Out, the more we will take action to heal the world.

We will see the Evolution of Humanity manifest organically and gently.

I can hear you protesting to me, "But Lynda you don't understand.  I have no time for all of that.” And I hear my mother saying to me, many a time,“Lynda you always find the time to do the things you want to do!” How right she was and still is.

Love and You: The Top Ten Tips for Loving Relationships

 
 

Originally posted August 22, 2010

By Lynda Klau Ph.D.

How many of us have learned how to build loving relationships? Where did we learn? At home? At school?

There is an art and science to building strong relationships.

These indispensable tips were written with romantic relationships in mind, but with a little modification you can apply them to your friendships, family and even work relationships.
Create a safe environment where you can trust and share openly without being afraid.

This means: don't interrupt, even if you need to put your hand over your mouth to stop yourself. Learn to fight fairly. No name-calling. Don't make threats. Apologize when you know you should. If you're too angry to really listen, stop! Go into another room, take space for yourself, breathe, and "calm down." Remember: your partner is not the enemy.Separate the facts from the feelings.

What beliefs and feelings get triggered in you during conflicts. Ask yourself: Is there something from my past that is influencing how I'm seeing the situation now? The critical question you want to ask: Is this about him or her, or is it really about me? What's the real truth? Once you're able to differentiate facts from feelings, you'll see your partner more clearly and be able to resolve conflicts from clarity.Connect with the different parts of yourself.
Each of us is not a solo instrument. We're more like a choir or an orchestra with several voices. What is your mind saying? What is your heart is saying? What is your body saying? What is your "gut" saying? For example: "My mind is saying 'definitely leave her,' but my heart says 'I really love her.' Let these different voices or parts of you co- exist and speak to one another. In this way, you will find an answer that comes from your whole self.Develop Compassion.
Practice observing yourself and your partner without judging. Part of you might judge, but you don't have to identify with it. Judging closes a door. The opposite of judging is compassion. When you are compassionate, you are open, connected, and more available to dialoging respectfully with your partner. As you increasingly learn to see your partner compassionately, you will have more power to choose your response rather than just reacting.Create a "we" that can house two "I's."
The foundation for a thriving, growing, mutually-supportive relationship is to be separate and connected. In co-dependent relationships, each person sacrifices part of him or herself, compromising the relationship as a whole. When you are separate and connected, each individual "I" contributes to the creation of a "we" that is stronger than the sum of its parts.Partner, heal thyself.
Don't expect your partner to fill your emotional holes, and don't try to fill theirs. Ultimately, each of us can only heal ourselves. Your partner, however, can be supportive as you work with yourself, and vice versa. In fact, living in a loving relationship is healing in and of itself.Relish the differences between you.
The differences between you and your partner are not negatives. You don't need to be with someone who shares all of your interests and views. We may sometimes fear that these differences are incompatibilities, but in fact, they're often what keeps a relationship exciting and full of "good fire."Ask Questions:
All too often, we make up our own stories or interpretations about what our partners' behavior means. For example: "She doesn't want to cuddle; she must not really love me anymore." We can never err on the side of asking too many questions, and then listen to the answers from your whole self: heart, gut, mind and body. Equally important is to hear what's not being said: the facts and feeling that you sense might be unspoken.Make time for your relationship.
No matter who you are or what your work is, you need to nurture your relationship. Make sure you schedule time for the well-being of your relationship. That includes making "playdates" and also taking downtime together. Frequently create a sacred space together by shutting off all things technological and digital. Like a garden, the more you tend to your relationship, the more it will grow.Say the "Hard Things" from Love.
Become aware of the hard things that you're not talking about. How does that feel? No matter what you're feeling in a situation, channel the energy of your emotions so that you say what you need to say in a constructive manner.Your tip:
Do you have a great relationship tip of your own? If so, please share it with me. If you have any other thoughts and reactions, I'd love to see them. Feel free to post them on UnlimitedLifeNY.com blog

There you have it. Be kind to yourselves. Remember: change takes time and every
step counts. 
 

©2013 Lynda Klau