By the time I was in my late twenties, it appeared that I had it all. I had achieved all of the trappings of conventional success. I was married, I had earned my Ph.D., was financially comfortable, and traveled often. However, deep within, I felt a haunting sense of incompletion. It was a pervasive longing for something I couldn’t name.
Then, one cold February day, when I was twenty-eight and attending a professional workshop, everything changed. I had a number of life-changing experiences that pierced the core of my being. This day unleashed life energy that had been locked up. Although I couldn’t quite yet put it into words, I knew that I had found what I had been longing for.
Early in the workshop, a fellow participant named Joe asked if he could do an exercise with me. I agreed. A group of us sat in chairs in a circle and Joe sat close to me, facing me straight on. He began saying to me, “Lynda you are beautiful.” Immediately, I said, “NO, I am not.” He repeated, “Lynda you are beautiful.” I adamantly shook my head “No!” He continued to tell me that I was beautiful a few more times and each time I resisted with one excuse or another. Finally, in a very clear and direct tone, he said, “Lynda, if you have to put your hands over your mouth to keep yourself from reacting negatively to my words, do so.” He took a breath and the room, all of a sudden, felt very silent. I put my two hands over my mouth and once again he uttered, “Lynda you are beautiful.” This time, I heard him. I had let him in. I felt like his voice was the first drop of sweet water I had allowed into my inner well in quite some time, or possibly, ever. In this sacred moment, the walls that I had built came down. While these walls were built to protect myself, this experience showed me that they were keeping out everything that was good, sweet, and nourishing, in addition to the bad. I told the group that if I built these walls, I could take them down.
The rest of the day brought additional experiences that continued to make me so very aware of the disservice my “walls” were doing me. I understood that living in a freer and less guarded place was what I had been longing for. The intense feelings of energy, love, and vulnerability that I felt that day were more like “real life” than the life I had been living despite all of my success.
Of course I wasn’t instantly transformed by my experience, but I got a taste of what it felt like to live a life with healthy boundaries instead of impenetrable walls. To live each day in this freer place would require further exploration, practice and commitment. I committed to allowing myself to feel present and safe in the universe and to helping others achieve the same. Ever since this day at the workshop, my life’s work has been studying and training in whatever I thought would help me to best reach Freedom; and how to travel from Fear to Freedom.
After years of studying and training with many different teachers I found my way and have helped many to find their way.
I had been working as an integrative psychologist, coach and speaker for more than two decades; loving my work. Almost from the beginning of when I started my company and private practice, I have been attracting just the people I want to attract: people who are talented and who want to be free and evolve themselves beyond their current success. This can mean many things: to truly discover who you are and become a real adult, to not be a victim of fear and survival, to come into your breath and body, to have a relationship that grows love and to take risks and dare greatly. I have helped many cultivate awareness, which works better than avoidance. I have guided others to live in a place of compassion, which is healing; judgment and shame are not. What a gift for me and for the people who have come my way to get their lives on track.
Just one year ago, I named the work I have been doing with my clients: FROM FEAR TO FREEDOM I saw the book I would write and the website.
My vision: Guiding individuals, businesses and organizations FROM FEAR TO FREEDOM. I also saw growing a community of individuals who feel deeply that they want to be part of a supportive, collaboration as they journey to freedom. I’m not sure of the how and the what but I trust clarity will come.